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If husband has POA then he is in charge if Mom can no longer make decisions. The home will abide by what he says.

It really has a lot to do with Moms health. If really into Dementia, then no. It confuses them to take them away from routine and familiarity.

I would talk to the DON first to see what he/she says. Then I would bring it up to the husband. If he still says no, then its no.
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Aging18 Nov 2, 2018
Thank you JoAnn
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Do you or see her regularly? And I mean at least weekly? Are you very involved/knowledgeable in her life and condition at the nursing home? Does she have dementia? How far along?

Why do you think a trip to (your or her?) home is a good idea?

Why does her husband object?
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Aging18 Nov 2, 2018
Thank you for your good questions.
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It depends on all sorts of things.

It even depends on what you mean by "am I able to." Are you able to as in legally? Possible, it depends on your mother's state of mind and her husband's level of authority. But are you able to as in "is this a good idea?" - still possible, but if he has good reasons for his objection you'd better hear him out.

In any case, if your mother's husband is her primary caregiver and responsible for her welfare, you won't be helping your mother by getting into conflict with him.

Is there something more to the situation that you'd like to share?
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Aging18 Nov 2, 2018
Thank you for your reply!
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Mom must be comfortable where she is. Change of location can be very difficult. What about you keeping her company at the facility?
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A little more details might get you some answers.

Where is mom living now, with her husband or in a facility? And does she have any form of dementia? And is this something your mom really wants or is this more your idea?

(edit) I just checked your profile and see that your mother is in a nursing home - often overnight visits are not allowed because the bed will not be held for them, especially if medicaid is paying the bill.
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