So my MIL has been living with my husband, me and our 2 teenage girls for a year now. We have been together almost 24/7 that whole time. Well, we did have an extended weekend of camping with just us (MIL stayed home —but we did bring her out to the campsite one whole day).
Anyway, my SIL came today and took her to stay with her in a cabin about 45 minutes from our house. I already feel so much more relaxed and happier. I feel like I can be myself, I feel less on edge. I feel like I can breathe! I knew it was stressful having another adult in the house, but I didn’t realize how much different it would feel when she’s gone. Now I’m wanting to move her out ASAP. Is it terrible for me to want my house back? Is it selfish of me to want my daughters to have their own rooms again (they had to share when Oma moved in and took the youngest’s room). The problem I’m having is that I’m a Christian and believe we are supposed to take care of the widows, but this is such a mental/emotional strain on us, I’m not sure it’s the best solution. But we have limited options because she has only a small SSI check each month. I’m conflicted about how much exactly we’re supposed to be caring for her, and what that looks like.
I’m definitely going to enjoy this week off of caregiving, but am dreading the return of all the stress.
Any suggestions/comment would be appreciated. I don’t want to be selfish or whiny but I really miss our nuclear family the way it was!