I've been in a wheelchair for over two years because of radiation damage to my spinal chord. We've sold our house and are using the proceeds to live on. My condition has deteriorated and I require more care from my husband. I need help getting into and out of the bed, using the toilet, for example. Lately I've been unable to shower for fear of falling, so personal hygiene is an issue though I do the best I can to keep myself clean. I don't tell anyone about this because it is hard to admit, even to myself.
I've had increasing difficulty getting into and out of the car to visit my doctor so we are buying an expensive, wheelchair-accommodating van and using up a chunk of our funds. My husband and I are in our mid-70's and he said we'd manage okay financially until our 90's if we bought the van, so we did.
We have a few hours of respite care from our county agency on aging. My husband gets a break.
I know I have many things to feel grateful for, but I feel like a burden. My husband is still active and I am not. If I wasn't around, he'd be living a different and perhaps richer life. I worry about my future care, the cost and the impact emotionally both on my husband and myself.
I am trying really hard to live in the moment, but sometimes I'm overwhelmed with the challenges I face.