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There's a movie 'Friends with Benefits' Alzheimer's Is not the entire subject of the movie but it may help if you watch it. It may help you if you don't expect or try to change behaviors of anyone, you CAN do something, you CAN change the way YOU react to certain behaviors. They are still in there....mixed up but there.... in the moment you could say. Just look and you'll see what I am saying.
I found this online ........In Friends With Benefits, Justin Timberlake’s father, played by Richard Jenkins, has Alzheimer’s disease and he actually has a challenging behavior: he takes off his pants in public. Part of the storyline (besides the obvious, beneficial, one) involves Dylan (JT) coming to terms with his dad’s diagnosis and behavior……………. Yes, the father has more lucid moments than not, and in those lucid moments, he’s incredibly wise, kind-hearted and ultimately helps his son make the right choice when it comes to love; however, what I liked was that the film (albeit briefly) addressed the toll on young adult children………… Dylan lives in New York, his father lives with his daughter in Los Angeles — there’s an inner conflict; Dylan’s feelings of embarrassment, especially when out in public; Dylan’s heartache at losing another parent (his mother left the family 10 years earlier); Dylan accepting and coming to terms with that which he cannot fix………….. he finally steps into his father’s world and walks around in his shoes.
The note book is also a good one!
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My father has been married to my mother for fifty years. He is holding hands with another woman in the nursing home and kissing her like she is his wife.
My mother is home devastated because she can't see her husband but twice a week for thirty minutes and the facility is going to allow him to carry on with another woman. What would you do in this situation? They won't let me see him either upstairs. I am suppose to be knowledgeable of things going on with his health. How can I do this is I am not allowed to be upstairs?
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Yes, when my father's dementia began (one day he wasn't demented, the next he was) he became more bizarre by the week. This was one of the "bad" behaviors, he was feeling sexual (and mind you, he NEVER would have EVER done this) and asked if he and I had just had sex. He also knew the neighbor lady was old, and alone since her husband was in hospice with Alzheimer's. He said things like "that son of a B isn't there anymore so I'm going to go get a piece of ass" . He kept writing dirty notes about how the neighbor women and himself just had sex (NEVER) and tried to get out and over to their houses. My father's Dr. put him on provera and this behavior all stopped within days.
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Not all people with Alzheimer's does these kind of things. But if it does happen, take deefer12 advise. Don't get upset, ignore what you can, correct the situation and laugh but don't laugh at them. Laugh with them. I can tell you some stories when I took care of a roommate of mine who had Alzheimer's. She was my other roommate's aunt. I won't though because I don't want to get booted off this site.
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Things will only get better! Not! Last time we took Mom to a restaurant was 2 years ago and she had her shirt up over her head before we even noticed! You are in for a wild ride! Mom passes gas and laughs! She takes her dentures out at daycare and sucks and licks her fingers all the time.
I can tell you many more things she now does that would cause her to have a heart attack if she was in her right mind! Their sense of propriety seems to disappear at some point and no amount of explaining can fix it. the best you can do is correct them in a way that won't upset them, and just ignore the things you can. I used to get embarrassed and upset, now I just laugh!
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One of my best friend's mother died of Alzheimers. During the early stages, just around her diagnosis, she 'packed' for a trip by putting nothing but socks in her suitcase and put on a tee shirt and underwear and declared she was all ready to go. Also, my teenage daughter years ago used to visit a nursing home and take our dogs to see the folks there. A certain man who usually sat around in his wheelchair with nothing but a towel over his genitals always managed to stand up and try to walk towards her when she entered the room. So if this is along the lines of what you are talking about, yes, it is normal. I think it doesn't go away as the disease won't, either.
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