She has always been a control freak. As an adult, she could put on her fake happy face but now that part of her has disappeared. She resented my close relationship with my father when he was alive. Now, he has recently passed & she is pleading for my attention. She still wants to argue about everything she doesn't understand. My brother says that my desire to be truthful just makes matters worse. Am I to treat her like a child now? Or lie about things that will only confuse her? My Dad just past in June & now she cocoons herself in bed, pleading to die so she can be with him. She is home with 24/7 caretakers. When we visit her she depresses us into crying as well. What should be our strategy for handling this? After we visit, some days she will call me up to 25 times. Every phone call upsets me. I have a lot of serious paperwork to do for their estate & his death. At times I don't answer because she throws off my concentration. I hate to admit this, but sometimes we wonder how much of this is fake, due to her normal personality. Now that Dad is gone, we don't know if she is being deviant about her emotions just to get attention. It's been very hard to show compassion to a mother who has never been loving to us. I have asked her visiting physician if there are any medications to give her to help her from screaming & yelling. Does anyone have suggestions?