My cousin is in AL and suffers from significant dementia. She has been liking the place for the last several months and crying to return when she goes for appointments, but for the last week she has repeatedly talked of going home. She says she loves the place and the people, but thinks she's well enough to go home now.
I realize she is likely referring to a home that she has in her mind and not her actual home, though she gives many details about the home, the neighbors, pets., etc.
She was doing quite poorly both physically and mentally lately, but she started on an antidepressant a little over a week ago and I think she may be feeling a little better. That's why I suspect she feels capable to go home now. Before, she was too weak to make such an assertion.
She has a fractured spine, fractured hand, needs assistance getting in and out of bed, extremely limited memory, diabetes, and other issues. Her neurologist will be meeting with us soon. She has Vascular Dementia and suspected Alzheimers. I had initially thought there was no reason to inform her if she has Alzheimers, but now I'm not so sure. I'm her POA and HCPOA. I just wonder if it would help her to hear that she can't go home because she has Allzheimers and Vascular Dementia or is it just as helpful to explain she has memory and physical issues that require to stay at a place they can help her. I know you can't reason with her, but I just wondered if anyone has any experience with someone getting that diagnosis and then it helping them stop talking of going home or does it even matter?