I have periodic problems with my moms caregiver. However, I am not assertive and don't always speak up. She is kind and loving towards my mom though so I feel guilty letting her go. She is 10-15 minutes late every morning but I always let it go since I'm retired and my mom lives with me. She doesn't follow instructions when I tell her to only spend a certain amount of money at the store. She almost always spends more. She has too much personal knowledge about our family due to the fact that she's here all day. She has family issues that periodically, but not too frequently force her to leave early. She wants me to pay her at the beginning of the workweek due to her financial needs. I always paid caregivers after they put in their weekly hours. long story short, I let too many things go unaddressed and now if I grow a backbone and express my need for changes, it will be a LONG LIST. I actually just want to tell her I can no longer afford to have her work so many hours and am going to drastically cut back on caregiving. I know she needs to work at least 7 hrs a day. Is it wrong to just use this as a reason? If I tell her I am dissatisfied, I KNOW she will argue with me. I am SO burned out and vulnerable (I've had my mom for 13years). Only needed help the last 5 as her physical condition has declined. She is 94 and has Alzheimers. I feel the caregiver is too 'at home' in our house. She can be fantastic on some days, but moody on others. My husband has suspicions she may have taken money from his wallet. No proof though. She also looked at a very personal prescription for a family member that was in a bag on our counter and then told me what it was for. I was speechless. I know I let things go too far and didn't set boundaries. She can be pushy and I tend to be accommodating. I had a superb caregiver who retired and we had a great relationship. I found a new more mature lady and clearly told her my expectations. My problem is getting up the guts to fire my current caregiver.