My parent live alone in upstate NY. They are 90 and 86. My mom is almost deaf, can hardly see and is non-ambulatory due to arthitis. She will do nothing to help with these things. She says she just wants to die. My Dad is ambulatory but has almost no vision in his left eye, has great difficulty walking. Both have fallen several times with one recent episode where my Dad fell and laid on the floor for 8 hours. No food, no water, messed himself. My mom couldn't help him up. We finally got a call from my mom..."I like to do things myself so I talked to your father all day on the floor". We contacted neighbors to help him up...he had to crawl to the door to let them in. They want no one in the house, recently refused LifeAlert after I had it all ordered and delivered to the house. I respect them but the situation is very stressful. They will not move, want no in home care and no help. Both are very mentally sharp so sneaking about trying to vacuum the house when i am there on vacation usually results in a huge blow up. They fight and pick at each other constantly. Mom say Dad is worthless, Dad throws pictures of when they were younger in the trash. They do not bathe because the tub is upstairs. They prepare their own meals but my dad must go to the store to purchase food items. That alone is dangerous at 90. Any advice would be appreciated. There are 6 of us but my elder brothers do not assist in any care of my parents, just my sister and I.