How do you cope with an elderly loved one who denies both issues. They do not believe they have a drinking issue, do not believe the doctors, and family too trusting of doctors outcome. The loved one lives on their own, declines any in-home help from outside sources, says they will never go to a nursing home; has high expectations from their children, and is most times shut in, lonely, and condescending. Doctors say he still can make decisions and it will get worse - breaking a hip or other. ANON family support group says not to enable him in any way eg. don't help him when sick from drinking unless life threatening. On the other hand, Community Help Groups say the Dementia causes him to have no insight and it’s not his fault; that I have to use the 3 R’s - Recognise, Reassure, and Redirect. Hard to do when he refuses to take his pills as he blames things like these for being sick. Any support groups out there that specialize with someone who has both issues? Should I keep trying to get him to accept his condition or should I accept that trying to get him to understand is impossible?