Mom lives in a senior apartment- not assisted living, however she does receive daily visits from my sister and I and we do her laundry and help with her bathing and run her errands. She drank brandy in the evenings and then started to drink in early afternoon and then mornings which turned into a whole 1.75 liter bottle in 3-4 days. Her health suffered and she lost 15 pounds, had me taking her to the doctor for feeling dizzy, nauseated, hallucinations, dehydration, etc. All related to alcohol. Her dr amazed because after a thorough physical that included blood work, echo cardiogram on all major arteries, heart and a neurological work up- he said she is in better health than most 50 year olds he sees. She takes zero medications. So he told her " You lost weight, hallucinations, black-outs, dizziness and nausea is alcohol related". Her response was he doesn't know what he's talking about. Long story short- her drinking"problems" interfere with my life. She doesn't remember calling me at all hours of the night, overflowing water, letting her cat escape into the enclosed complex for other elderly to trip over, and on and on so after calling me names I told her she is an alcoholic and I could no longer in good conscious buy it and my sister won't because she is a 10 year AA member. Mom now claims I am holding her prisoner by default bcus she can't drive, I have her financial POA. I reminded her she has lots of cash and her checkbook and there is daily bus service for the residents as well as many who still drive. I told her if she wants it, go buy it or ask a neighbor. She's playing the invalid card- bad eyes (she does), uses a walker (the bus is disabled, wheelchair friendly ) and then she said she is just too feeble to do it- and I don't agree- she's just become co-depending. The question is do I give in? I say no because she's a detriment to herself- health and instability and by a slim chance- others via the cat roaming in the complex. (Of course she says none of these things happened- i am an exaggerating liar) What say you?