My 94-yr dad broke his hip 4 weeks ago. After 1 week in hospital and 2.5 in a SNF is home. But my 90-yr alcoholic mother is a terror; abusing the care giver we hired and all family members. She wont' give us POA and says she can make decisions, but she has dementia and can't remember anything. She's also giving my father alcohol and took much aspirin.
It's a total mess! what can we do? Help! MY brother is named in the Trust as the back up, but how do we get him legal authority and then what can he do with it?
I fear my father (who's really sweet when he's not around my abusive mom) may have to go to a facility, even though he wants to be at home. But she is making it unsafe!