Does anyone have experience with aid and attendance for my mother?

I tried to get this for my Dad

First, she will be permitted only $20,000 in total assets
Then..depending on her income, she may qualify for some amount of money. She can spend her income on her own healthcare and in home aids and that will help to bring down her income. Check with the VA office on what are the expenses that they allow as part of the spend down.

My dad could not qualify on the basis of the assets alone, so I never went further with the application

First you find your Dad's discharge papers. Then call the VA.

$20,000 Assets exclude home and Vehicle, I understand those veterans with a lot of Land and bank securities it would be hard to get Aid and Attendance...I am not sure that home and vehicle being excluded from assets.

You have to find your dad's discharge papers. That's crucial, because the archive holding military records burned down. Then you should find someone to help you. I got someone from the VFA to help me, and it was really, really crucial. By the way, it takes forever, I am still waiting for results. You also need to show that her expenses are exceeding her monthly income.

Hi, try the people at National Association of Veterans & Families. They will submit for you your claim and they have a 99% success rate. Here is their info:

Phone: 800-352-2919 Local: 904-394-3908 Fax: 855-217-6178 Website: navf.org

Good luck,, I am currently using them to help me too.