Hi, I just stumbled across this forum a couple of days ago, and boy do I need to hear from you guys. My father and his wife are in their 70s and 80s, and not in good health. M father has dementia, his wife is just mean. I am the only child living in the same city, for the past 30 years (too long).
I know they have substantial wealth. Before the recession, supposedly around $2million. They have refused to discuss their end of life care with me, or the contents and disposition of their wills. When I worked as a paralegal, I offered several times for them to come in to my office and execute wills, which they also ignored.
I am not my father's primary caregiver - of course his wife is. I have offered to help but they have refused that as well. Does anyone have ANY suggestions/ideas about how I deal with this? I'd like to find out if they even have wills, or a trust set up, or anything at all. This triggers my own control issues of cours, but I am trying to prepare myself so I don't end up having to sort out a big mess down the road. I hope to not live here by then but who knows. Thank you much.