We have an aging mother who is allowing her indigent alcoholic 58 year old son to live with her. She is paying his bills/living expenses from her limited finances. We are not sure if she is doing this willingly or not. There is a lot that goes into the situation, but we do not feel safe checking on her at home because of past threats from the son that is living with her. Various family members have received calls from bill collectors looking for her recently. Her phone is intermittently disconnected. When we ARE able to get in touch with her, she seems happy and content and doesn't indicate that there are any problems. An aunt who lives nearby is fearful that the son is isolating her by controlling phone calls, etc. and is concerned about her health and financial state as well. We have no idea if we should step into the middle of this or, if so, where we would even begin. Thoughts?