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Really worried as she has so many friends @ present facility. The new one is much less expensive (she can't afford where she's living now). Also the new home is newer & really nice. Think she'll get better care too. She's willing to look @ it, but then forgets & says "oh, this really is a nice place" (place she's in).

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I moved my mom (87 next month) from one assisted living to another this past April, for many of the same reasons. The new one is better suited to her worsening dementia, and the staff is much better. The pricing is such that I could add a few services and activities for mom and still spend a little less. Mom's new home is a little farther away as well, but it is 25 minutes versus 15 minutes, so that is not much of a factor.

The move itself was a little disorienting for mom. Even though she had watched us pack and load her stuff all morning, when we walked into the new facility she told me she thought she was going to a doctor's appointment, not that she was moving. She was a little more confused for four or five days, but then settled in nicely. The increased activities were a big help. By the end of the first week, she didn't remember that she had ever lived in the old place, and was happy with her new facility. I have absolutely no regrets about the move. Hopefully your experience will be similar.
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Yes, I can definitely bring her back to the home she's in now to visit with her friends & I will :-) She does make friends easily. The bad thing for me, is the new facility is 45-min. away vs 25-min. from present facility. Being that I'm self-employed, it will be harder for me to make it down for visits (maybe 1-2 week vs 3x time). At least my kids (grandsons) can visit more often, as they live closer.
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Yes, I think it will have some affect on her. But if it has to be done for financial reasons, it has to be done. Could you offer to bring her back to visit her friends at her current facility once or twice a week? Then she'd have friends in two places! She could also keep in touch with some of them by phone.

It is really great that she likes her current place so well! It sounds like she is kind to make friends and settle in. It is a shame she has to move, but if it is a necessity try not to stress out over it. Present it positively. I'm guessing she'll adjust.
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