I'm concerned about many things! I am 25 years old and due to family pressures, I have decided to quit my job and will become my grandmother's caregiver when she is discharged from the hospital. I don't regret this decision, but at the same time, I'm scared about the future and am already stressed about what my responsibilities will be. I have recently graduated college with a degree in criminal justice and forensic chemistry. I have been unable to find full-time work, so it was decided that it would be best if I put the job searching on hold and take care of my grandmother.
I am happy to help my grandmother; she has always been a support to me and I feel like this is the right thing to do. However, we are both stubborn women and my grandmother can be rather difficult when it comes to someone impeding on her sense of independence.
My grandmother has suffered multiple strokes and has lost much of her functionality in her left side. She has made poor health choices in the past and insists on still being just as independent as she was before experiencing her serious medical problems. It is not safe for her to be by herself anymore, as she is prone to choking episodes (she has issues swallowing), has trouble walking, is prone to falls, and is generally just weaker and has less stamina than what she used to have.
Honestly, I'm scared about this transition in my life from becoming college student to caregiver of an elderly woman. There are times when I feel selfish and feel like "I'm still so young, I should be living my life, not taking care of someone!", but at the same time, I am glad that I can be able to help my family and that my grandma trusts me enough to take care of her. I know that this is probably stressful to her as well! I don't want her to feel like she's lost her independence. While in the hospital, she did have a small bout of depression, which I totally understand, and I would like to help her and make sure she doesn't feel helpless or hopeless.
Is there any advice out there that can help me know what to expect and how to manage stress for the both of us? I'd really appreciate it!