This is going to be a long read so please bear with me.
I'm the youngest (49) of my brother (estranged no contact for 4yrs.) and I. My brother married this lady in 2012 against my advice and showing him proof that she was/is a criminal. She was subsequently arrested for felony embezzlement (3rd time) to the tune of $300K, convicted and served jail time for it. She got out and a month later she intercepted a personal check from my dad to my brother, forged a new amount and cashed it. My father finally told me about it and I held my tongue about them for the better part of two months. My dad would not file a police report and with the evidence in front of my brother he said that she didn't do it.
I had enough with enabling my brother (who is a sheriff's deputy by the way) and started a tell the truth campaign via craigslist. That angered my father to the point of telling me to F-off and became estranged from him for about a year and half. He made contact in late August last year and he told me that he had fallen onto his back. I live about an hour and fifteen minutes from him and started taking him to a chiropractor and driving down to help with firewood. I would drive down and work my butt off splitting firewood and bringing it in the house enough for two weeks at a time. It was all I could do to get him to buy me lunch let alone my gas for the trip.
I decided to help him transition from wood burning to a pellet stove and began the leg work to make that happen by the end of this summer. I've had the flu real bad for two weeks now and haven't been able to drive down. He constantly guilt trips me about the wood situation and it's driving me crazy. Now he has is "on again off again" carpenter guy build an 8' section of fence that he paid $500 for. He then discussed the pellet stove with him and this guy has now added his 2 cents on the subject and has my dad calling the city about how high the outside pipe should be on the roof.
I was going to keep the wood stove pipe and put the pellet pipe through it and cap it. The pellet pipe shouldn't have to be any higher than the pipe that's there now... So my dad calls today to tell me about his back and what yet another doctor has said. Apparently he has 4 cracked vertebrae and nothing will be done until 2nd week in april. This doctor bad mouthed all previous healthcare concerning his back injury up to this point. To me all this doctor did was join the club of "do nothing" healthcare providers up to this point. I expressed this opinion to my dad and he became angry. I also told him that he's now going to have problems with the city regarding the pellet stove installation and he became more angry not to mention that he doesn't like talking to me when I'm sick or having problems or my wife.
He has a kerosene monitor heater along with the current wood stove and constantly complains about how expensive it is to run or will say "can't wait to the monitor bill this month". Which he did with this call to me today.
I'm at my wits end and just don't know what to do. Oh yeah he also wants to put grass sod down this spring in the back yard which he's done before but the two dog just kill it by peeing on it and digging it up. I know it's his money but it's driving me crazy. I just don't know what to do and now wish I had not said anything about a pellet stove.
Please help and if something's not clear I'll be more than happy to answer any questions.