My husband and I have cared for my parents for 5 years. My mum had Vascular Dementia and my dad Alzhiemers. We moved in last October after we could see they were struggling and my mum passed away 5 weeks ago today. After this an underlying problem has raised its ugly head. My Dad is a really noisy eater. I HATE being in the same room as him when he eats as he has some really bad habits. He makes a noise when he chews, it's like being at a zoo, and then he gets a drink and swishes it loudly around his teeth. Then he gets his little finger and pulls out food that gets stuck between his gum and his teeth. My husband is even less tolerant than me. But my Dad is all alone now and I can't find it in my heart to tell him not to eat with us. I tell him about it, over and over again. He knows it's disgusting. But as my mum used to suck her dentures after a meal.. they were good company and it's habitual. I adore my Dad but I hate this part of him.
We have our own lounge.. Its a conservatory that we were supposed to have for our own privacy. But Dad just follows us in. He has his own lounge and dining room. My brother lives here too but he's mildly autistic and lazy and my Dad doesn't get along with him.
Whenever I tell him. DAD please don't do that.. He'll say Oops sorry and then do it again a couple of minutes later. He'll try to do it behind the other hand. I've told him go on the bathroom but he takes no notice.
His memory isn't too bad.. He still goes for walks (he wears a name and address band and gets sent off on a safe path) he can dress and bath himself as long as I remind him and put his clothes out. He does remember he's not to do it.. He just hopes he'll get away with it each time.
I can't see any way out of this and its depressing me, I am grieving the loss of mum so much, Dad got fed up with her towards the end as she just slept but he misses her from time to time. Any help or ideas gratefully received.