Advice for traveling during the early stages of dementia?

There are tons of good advice here and it really does depend on "where's he at"? I traveled with my wife for several years after her diagnosis, but learned this: plan extra time! We did fly for a few years, but then trying to stay on someone else's schedule just got too stressful for both of us.
We started just driving. We're in our late 50's and since PCA took her vision, she's fine with me leading her into men's rooms to use the toilet. Would you be fine with taking your Hubbins into a public ladies room? If not, you'll want to find places that have rest rooms for "either sex". Starbucks is one example and they are pretty ubiquitous along the interstate. Eating can be a challenge but I find that if we sit down at a restaurant in the "off times" instead of rush hours, we can take our time and eat at our own pace. Else, it is fast food and we eat in the front seat and I help her then choke down my sandwich and off we go.
Not ideal, but we're also not ones to stay at home. THAT SAID - she was diagnosed in 2019 and then starting early this year 2025, 6 years in, she is more an more anxious about being away from home and our travel days are winding down.

Blessings and best of wishes as you strive to "keep doing what you can while you can" which is our motto!

Just know that folks with dementia do much better with routine. And when their routine is disrupted, all hell can break loose.
So by taking your husband out of his routine and home and going south for the winter may just be too much for him even if he's in the early stages of the disease.
I guess you won't know until you try, but don't be surprised when he seems to progress even more while you're away from home.
I think I would start with a weekend away before opting for the 3 months down south to see how he does with just being away from home and his routine for a few days, and take things from there.

It might be just fine....
It might not be what you expect.
There is no telling what goes on in the mind.
He may be just fine with a drive of several hours. But when it comes to bedtime he might want to go home.
Then there is the "problem" of a hotel room.
Will he get up and want to leave? Will he get out of the room?

If you fly the confusion and activity at the airport may be frightening. Ask for Wheelchair assistance. They will pick you up in a cart and bring you to the gate.

You might want to do a trial run.
Book a weekend at a hotel a ways away from home.
Pack a bag, and see what happens, how he reacts to being in a strange place over night.

Now your trip south for the winter may be just fine.
He might (or might not) have problems with the initial trip but once he gets to the "Florida home" he may settle in and get comfortable once he gets used to the surroundings. This might take a week or two. then you will have to deal with the same things on the return trip in March.

I suggest you get Door Alarms. They look like old fashioned door stops. You place them in front of the door if the door is opened the door goes over the stop and depresses the top a bit and it sounds an alarm. (great for anyone using a hotel)

I say go for it! Enjoy your usual life as much as you still can!

Just be prepared to adapt and change plans if it becomes to much for him.

Routine is key for a dementia sufferer. Familiar faces, familiar places, and keeping daily activities at the same time will help avoid causing upset.
You'd be surprised, as his condition progresses, how the smallest change in his daily routine can make him anxious and upset!

This depends on your husband and whether or not his behavior is appropriate. For instance, will you know for sure at the time of travel if he can still use a public restroom? This can get dicey even if they are okay with using the toilet at home. In a new situation, he could get confused. And it won't make any difference that he's been to those same public restrooms before because his memory will not necessarily provide information about what to do there. Nor will having a friend go in with him, or even you.

I've been through a couple of nightmare visits to public restrooms with my husband, who has dementia. My friend, whose husband has dementia also, has directed her DH into a restroom and waited outside, but a long time went by and he didn't come out. No one else was apparently in there but she decided not to go in herself, so she grabbed a passerby and asked him to go in to check on her husband. "He's six feet tall and wearing a blue jacket!" Turned out he was okay but stayed in there, just standing around, I guess. Poor guy may have not known how to exit the restroom.

A trip can have consequences in a dementia patient's cognition. They don't adapt well to changes in their routines. They even can become scared and grab onto things like railings or tables in a restaurant, and woe be unto you if you try to pry them loose!

As for south for the winter, yikes. Maybe yes, maybe no. Will he take off on his own and try to walk home? Will he dress properly for the weather? Such as, what if he puts on several garments at once, such as shirt on top of shirt on top of sweater and another shirt over it? And two pairs of gardening shorts on top of jeans? Do you have the energy to talk him into undressing and trying to dress him properly? Can he eat in a restaurant, know how to use a fork? A knife? Will he steal things, as my husband did with table decor, refusing to put it back so that the server said it was okay if he kept it.

There's a lot to think about. His safety and your sanity must be uppermost in your thoughts. I wish you luck whatever you decide.

Hi Tanza2, Based on your observations, if you think you will still enjoy the time together, it should be fine to travel. It can be helpful to enjoy the time you have because it may be very difficult to travel in the future. It may be helpful to notify the friends you are visiting of some of your husband’s changes and that some things may be different (eg. may not be able to stay out late, have the same stamina, or even recall some of the old memories)-your friends will need to be understanding. You may also need to guage your husband’s energy-he may not be able to stay the three months like you did in the past, or may become disoriented. Sometimes people in various stages of dementia become more disoriented when their surroundings change, but typically happens later. Consult with his medical team, if you have one, and also be sure to have his medicines available for the trip. This could be a fun time if you go in with understanding and are able to be flexible if you have to change your travel plans due to your husband’s needs. I don’t regret any of the trips my mother took early in her diagnosis. They are no longer a possibility. I hope you have a nice time, if you decide to go!

At The Beginning it is Ok as it Progresses he may have Incontinence after a long drive or eating Out . Then OCD Issues and want to go home after a few days and Mania because he doesn't Know where he is . Then You May have to Lift him up and down the stairs . He May do Inaprpraite things Like smear hair Dye all Over the Blankets or drive His car into another car . I wouldn't do 3 months In Florida . Go to Maine for a week and see what Happens . Or where ever you Live stay close By . I Took My Dad to Key west he did Ok the first couple days then didn't want to leave the hotel Room and became OCD with the AC unit and kept turning it off . Or In Maine he Kept trying to set the fire Pit on fire . We Had good times But the trips got shorter and shorter . No I wouldn't do 3 Months in Florida you don't have your doctor there or the right Hospital with His Information if he gets Hurt you could end up spending Months In Florida . Do weekend and week trips Only .

Here is a relevant section from my book "Dementia Care Companion" to answer you question:

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Right away, she lost her passport and wasn’t even concerned about it. While on the trip, wherever we went, she thought she had already been there. She thought she knew people she had never met and would start conversations with strangers. She didn’t remember if she had had lunch, or whether it was day or night.
Traveling is still possible in the early and middle stages of dementia progression, but with proper planning and lots of precautions. Whether it is advisable to travel is a question that requires careful weighing of the benefits against the risks involved.
Traveling is stressful for a person with dementia, and their reaction to the added stress can be unpredictable. The changes in their daily routine, the unfamiliar environment, and the pace of activities all add to the confusion, anxiety, and aggression that the patient experiences in the best of times.
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·      If possible, travel with a trusted person who can assist you during unexpected events or situations. Expect that the patient’s behavior will be much more problematic while traveling than on a regular day at home.
·      Make a list of everything that you will need ahead of time so you don’t forget anything important. Take extra clothing for cold or warm weather. Pack ample incontinence supplies, wet wipes, snacks, and drinks. Include slippers and neck pillow for additional comfort. Provision for the patient’s entertainment on the way, including music, storybooks, photo albums, and so on.
·      Take along medications, medication list, dosage and time instructions, your doctor’s phone number, and other essential and emergency phone numbers.
·      If you plan to fly, ask your doctor to write a letter indicating the patient’s type of illness and their special needs, and requesting help and cooperation, especially from airport security staff and flight crew.
·      Think through possible incontinence scenarios, such as in the departure area or on the plane. How would you deal with them should they arise?
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·      Do not pack too much into a day. Plan more time than usual for every activity. Allow plenty of time to rest and recharge between activities.
·      Try to make the patient’s daily schedule during the trip resemble their regular schedule at home as much as possible.
·      Prepare for the possibility of wandering. The patient may get disoriented in unfamiliar environments, wander off, and get lost. Stay with the patient at all times, and do not let them out of your sight.
·      Be ready to pick up and return home on short notice. Your trip may need to be shortened unexpectedly due to unforeseen circumstances.
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Although the patient may not remember the names of friends and relatives, they will enjoy seeing familiar and friendly faces. When planning to visit friends and relatives, alert your hosts about the patient’s special needs ahead of time so your hosts can better accommodate the patient during their visit.
·      Stay calm in the event of mishaps. Treat the patient with respect at all times.
·      Do not address the patient like you would a child. Avoid baby talk and any other speech or behavior that could be demeaning to the patient.
·      Do not discuss the patient’s illness or behavior in front of them.
·      Ask friends and relatives to stay in the patient’s field of view. Have them approach gently, smile and make eye contact, introduce themselves, and call the patient by name to draw their attention.
·      Ask everyone to respect the patient’s personal space and not get too close unless invited to do so by the patient.
·      Encourage people to use hand and face gestures when interacting with the patient for better communication.
·      Make certain that your host does not offer any food or snacks to the patient before consult

Yes, go for it. Dad and Mom travelled internationally when she had early dementia.

The only thing I'd say to be mindful of is that your husband's condition could deteriorate over the months that you're away, so how he is at the start of the trip might not be how he is at the end. Also, how he is at home in his everyday surroundings might not be how he is while away.

So, be prepared to be adaptive and change your plans if necessary. Also, you might want to try and get back to the accommodation by early evening, if he starts sundowning, and you should be more aware of not tiring him out too much. Dementia sufferers become exhausted more easily and this can have an impact on their cognitive ability.

Wishing you and your husband all the best.