So I'm moving down to Texas to take some of the load off my mother's shoulders by caring for my grandfather, who lives with her. He's basically bed-bound, using a urine container but still getting up for bowel movements, and until now, he's relied solely on my mother for his care and maintenance. I see how stressed and tired she is, and it scares me a little.
I've taken care of elderly people before, but always on a temporary basis and never for family. And never with anyone who is as stubborn and often cantankerous as he is, coupled with general mental decline. I could use some tips from those more experienced than I.