I need some advice from you awesome people! A little history on our family. My husband and I have been married 25 years and have four kids (two in college, two in high school). Last spring my husband was transferred out of state and we are currently living across the country from each other while our two youngest (twins) finish their senior year of high school. We have one in college in NY and one in college in TX where I am with the two high schoolers. My husband is in Michigan. Last spring his mom was at the point where she could no longer live alone in Florida. My husband flew to FL and packed her stuff and arranged for the sale of her house. He flew her to Pennsylvania and rented a uhaul to drive her stuff there. My husband's sister is in PA and that is where my mother in law's sisters and entire family is. At this point my husband was living with my aunt in MI and I am in an apartment in TX - we didn't have an option to take her in and really felt it would be best for her to be near her sisters and other family. My husband travels a lot for his job and to see us and our son in NY. He is currently in PA for his second visit since moving her there in the spring. My mother in law has MS and probably bipolar/manic depression. She is not easy to deal with at all. I can spend 5 hours with her on the phone, easily! The problem we are having is my sister in law is terrible to my husband. I understand her frustration but she calls my husband names and yells at him for "sticking her" with the situation. My sister in law is a professional and works a lot of hours, her husband is a nurse. They have a son in the service and a daughter in college. I know that she's probably just angry at the situation and taking it out on my husband. She yells at him for not helping but can't think of anything for him to do to help. They moved my mother in law into an apartment and want to sign her up for a service to take her to the doctor, grocery store, etc. which I think is fine. It would be nice if they could just visit and not have to take her places. I've told my husband when I move to MI next summer we could have her live with us but until then I don't see any other option than keeping her in PA. My grandmother lived with us for two years and I also cared for my mom for five years. I understand the toll it takes on you. And my siblings all lived out of state. My question is - am I missing something? Is there something more we could be doing to help out the situation?