My father does not make enough money with Social Security for in home care. He has a rental property with tenants who were given a low monthly payment but they frequently pay late or not at all so he cannot depend on that income. He is making mistakes with his bills and had some fraud on his bank account. He has no drivers license but is still driving his old vehicle short distances. His hygiene is terrible and he will not throw anything away including used napkins and Qtips. He takes a shower once a week and his under garments are stained. He cannot hit the toilet when he urinates which is several times at night and keeps the towel he uses to wipe up with on the sink. All his property is part of a revocable trust. I am the executor after he passes and currently have financial power of attorney. If he would sell an asset then he might have some funds for either in home care or assisted living but he does not want to sell anything. I am taking care of him this winter in Phoenix but he lives in northern Indiana and wants to go back home this spring. I cannot stay there with him all summer. What are my options?
Now it is a matter of what kind of care he needs and how best to get it.
If his SS and rental assets don't give him enough for ALF then property needs to be sold so he will have funds to go into care. He would be allowed to keep one home and go on Medicaid when needed, but not a home and a rental unit.
You and Dad need to get together with doc and first decide what KIND of care he requires now. If that is ALF then changes need to occur whether he likes that or not. If you are POA for an uncooperative senior it isn't going to work and if he is competent and uncooperative then leave him on his own to make a mess. If he want YOU to take over financial then you need to do that, do things that need doing and explain to him why. An hour of time with an Elder Law attorney will give options and will allow you two to come to conclusions.
Two chefs cannot be in charge. One must be in charge and that is the one who is capable of making dinner. The other assists and discusses, but isn't the decider. If that can't be made clear, I would step away. I was POA and Trustee for the most organized and cooperative man, my brother, who put me completely in charge and handed me the reins, taking a small financial spending account of his own and letting me do everything else with a monthly accounting to him. As I said, most cooperative man on earth and it was STILL an absolute crucible and a very steep learning curve. I did it from 1/2 the state away, and that made it all the more hard.
I wish you the best of luck.
It is urgent that you stop him from driving as he can hurt others or himself. My Uncle went through a red light and got t-boned, which killed his passenger -- his wife -- and injured the other people in the other car. You don't discuss it with him in advance: you need the element of surprise. Remove the car, both sets of keys, and any paperwork (title, insurance, repair paperwork) so that he can't start calling places to find it. You can tell him a therapeutic fib: it was towed! And you are in the process of looking for it. Or any other story you think he will accept. Do not return it to him for any reason. Hopefully your PoA authority will allow you to sell it.
When you know what your PoA says you can do, then return to this post and update that info so we can give you the best guidance. Otherwise, we're just guessing and so are you.