I'm 26 years old and have been my 58 year old mother's caretaker for about 6 months. My dad helps at night, but I spend most of my days helping get her dressed, fed, and to and from appointments. She's in end stage renal failure with dialysis 3 times a week. She hardly ever stays her whole treatment because she says she has anxiety. She's tried multiple medications but they don't seem to help. This is causing her to gain an extreme amount of excess fluid, so she is starting to lose mobility and experience breathing problems. They've told her to limit her sodium and fluid intake, but she does just the opposite. I monitor these things while I'm around but when I leave she eats and drinks what she wants. It seems she doesn't do anything at all to help herself and runs me ragged. I have a brother who helps when he can, but not near enough as I need. I quit my job to take over her job as office secretary at my dad's small business, which means I've also become their personal secretary handling bills, taxes, insurance, medicare, and disability paperwork. I feel very overwhelmed with all the business duties on top of all her medical duties. Every time I make plans on the few days I have free, she calls and says she needs something and tries to cut my plans short. I'm torn between feeling obligated as her daughter to make sure I care for her the best I can, but also not wanting to miss out on opportunities I'll only have while I'm young and single. I know this is a long post, but I appreciate any advice from those who may have some insight.