I am at wits end. 84 year old mom lives independently (dad died 5 years ago) and started having health issues in Aug. First a fall, 3 days in hospital, then back home. When home health visited, she could not answer door, house was a filthy wreck to the point EMTs left phone # for Hoarder Rescue on the top of the debris field in her kitchen, she had a UTI and was very weak. Back to hospital. Dr recommended acute rehab which she did for several weeks, then she went out to skilled rehab facility. Ended up with VRE in her urine, then C.diff. She is on day 38 of her 100 that Medicare covers at 80% and the rehab is pushing her discharge even though she IS participating in her PT/OT. She is just not progressing.
I've been down to FL twice in the past 6 weeks. I met with PT/OT, social worker and administrator who all state she cannot be on her own. She needs constant cueing, without which she furniture walks and drags her walker behind her like a sad puppy. When in a wheelchair, they have to push her an inch at a time or she freaks out. She is verbally abusive and belligerent (more on that another time - that has always been her go-to personality) and is sundowning, although no diagnosis of dementia has been made. She has COPD (24hr oxygen which she constantly pulls out if her nose,) and heart disease. They state unequivocally she can no longer drive, cook, manage finances or be on her own. I could tell most of this from the state of the house. Neighbors have told me they have had to help her after falls, or she can't move (all the while she cusses them out) and fire dept/emts apparently have been at her house almost on a weekly basis this past year. Mom fibs and says this is not true.
My question is...I am frantically researching ALFs as I know home care would not work. She would run them off in 2 days. The rehab says because she is not making progress she needs to go...but I have nowhere to get her to, since she cannot return to her home. I am taking FMLA leave, unpaid, to go back to FL in a week and start touring places. Meanwhile mom tells them every day her daughter is coming to take her home....while calling to scream and threaten me that I need to get her out of "that place". Can they just kick her out before her 100 days are up? I have paid the facility her $57/copay that started on day 21 so its not financial. I need more time to get her health figured out. Then comes the fight about where she will live.