My husband and I are in our early 50's. We had our 2 sons at a young age. Both are married now and each one has a son under 4 yrs old. Our younger son (32), dated and married the only girl he ever dated. She never warmed up to us. Before their child came along, she would always make excuses for them not being available for any type of family get together. They always had time for her family though... our feelings have been hurt SO much by them. Our son doesn't stand up for us. We were not invited to their wedding, baby shower or told about the birth. He lives 20 miles from us and we have not seen or talked to them in 4 years. Many attempts have been made, with no avail. Our oldest son (33), has a similar wife (who would believe this could happen 2x in one family!). She also prefers her family during the holidays etc over us. They would stop by for a short time, saying they have plans with her family. We were allowed to see their son "briefly". They live out if state (6 hrs away). Her family lives in our area. We have been told they make trips home without telling us. We are heart broken. We have tried to talk to our son about all of this (he's a music pastor!!)... and he turns a deaf ear... we are trying to go forward with our lives... but it's hard, especially around the holidays. When people ask how our sons are, it's embarrassing to tell the story... people think WE must have done something to them. We raised them well, raised them in church, had a normal childhood. Nothing out of the ordinary. So, the Lord has a reason for allowing things to happen the way they do, we just hope one day, this will pass. Trying to be optimistic, but honestly... we aren't. Any positive response would be greatly appreciated.