I feel trapped and I'm at wit's end. I've never posted on a forum before but this is a great community & I've learned a lot over the past 6 months, so I am reaching out for help. My father is a narcissist who will never appreciate the sacrifice I made for our family. He treats me like his enemy instead of thanking me for doing the most selfless act a child can do in order to keep mom home. I'm an only child who had a successful career (out of state) and realized that when it was time for mom to either go home or stay in a nursing home, he was perfectly content leaving her in a home. My mother is recovering from brain surgery and status epilepticus (twice). The mere fact that she got to this point was my realization that g-d wanted her home, and I needed to come home. Many don't survive going status once, let alone twice. My mother (who received her doctorate) also didn't work her whole life, as the bread winner of our family, for her husband to leave her in a nursing home, because it made his life easier. I said I would come home and help her back to health and we agreed he could pay me whatever he would have paid an aide. Without getting into the semantics, I'm sure you all know where this leads. He's relinquished his promise on funding, yells and screams, talks bad about me to other family members, gaslights me, lies to my mother when I'm not present (bullying), makes fun of me, says I'm too sensitive, says I don't do anything for him, yells in front of my mom (and my dogs), lies to me, breaks agreements and promises (doesn't care; has no remorse), says call a lawyer (which I have NO time for and he knows, as I'm a full time caretaker) and the list goes on. The next morning he will be all happy and cheery like nothing happened then snap, and it happens all over again. Tells me life was better without me in it mind you he can't do anything for himself other than eat and poop. He's in chronic pain and refuses to get help. Tells me it's none of my gd business (though mom and I take the brunt of it). I walk on egg shells because I don't know who or what monster I'm going to get. He's practically exiled me from any family because of the constant lies he tells them and I don't have endless hours to sit and talk in the phone like he does. All he does is sit, watch TV, make fun of me or complain about something, out me down, instigate then lock himself in his room. He spends no time with his wife and if he does, he winds up blaming me for something and yells and leaves. It's vicious and I'm at my breaking point. He's promised he would stop yelling buy he can't and he doesn't care. It lasted a few hours. He promised he would stop bad mouthing me to family and I overheard him talking in the bathroom to our cousin about me. My own father outright lied to me. I don't know how much more I and/or my mother can handle but he knows I can't leave for many reasons . . . 1) I have no where to go 2) mom is solely dependent on me (PEG tube and non ambulatory). When I say I can't do this anymore because I deserve respect he says leave! I ask what his plan is? He says that he'll call 911, they'll take care of her. I didn't come this far for his selfishness to take us down. There has to be a way out, a light at the end of the tunnel. He contributes zero. He has control issues, says the money and house is his but mom worked her whole life for this, he raised me (can you believe it)? She had a successful career and he's living off of it now. He controls the money, her, everything. I'm so scared and truly don't know what to do. I used to be so happy! Mom too! And I see us retreating ... Some days we don't leave my room. I cook for her, clean, take care of two dogs, order medical supplies, medicines, try to be a cheerleader, educator, keep her happy, do activities with her, etc. etc. but everyday this is getting harder and harder. We're going on six months and he's becoming unbearable. Please help!