I live in MD, my parents in FL. Per my sister and mother my father is failing. He has been diagnosed with "probable" Alzheimer's. There is alcohol involved in the living situation with all 3 of them making matters worse. My mother in my opinion is abusive verbally and emotionally to my father. I am going down there to visit to see for myself how "bad" my father is. I would also like to speak with his doctor (given my father will give me permission) as well as my mother's physician. I have been looking into Alzheimer's assisted living facilities here in MD to bring my father when the time comes. I need some advice on how to broach this subject and how to best talk to them about the way they are living when I go down there. Right now I am full of anger and I am afraid that I will not present my concerns in a manner which will be productive. Thank you.