My wife and I have reached our limit in taking care of my 96 yr. old mom after 5 years of being caregivers. She has 3 other children younger than me who can take over this responsibility but do not do so.
After not getting cooperation from siblings to discuss this and work out a new arrangement for Mom, we have notified Mom we can only do this for another year. She is now angry and upset, and says she will move out soon.
She is making claims over an incorrect amount of money she invested in helping to buy the house we live in. It is much lower than she is claiming and we have financial documents to prove it.
We need help in determining if she is due any monies from us after these 5 years of being caregivers; she is claiming we owe her money, and is coming up with an amount using her own calculations.
We pay the mortgage, taxes, and majority of expenses. She has given us 1/3 of those house expenses every 3 months for the 5 years, and that is all.
Has anyone got experience in this area where a 3rd party can mediate and/or help resolve this in an objective unbiased way based on actual financial amounts contributed toward purchase of the house and annual expense costs?