My brother, his wife and two of his children are in town, on vacation, and want to visit with my 87 year-old mother. She's got congestive heart failure, depression and is on home hospice care with myself as her sole caretaker. She's refused to see her daughter-in-law and her grandchildren for years, but since she's been on hospice family members have been wanting to visit.
There's no reason for her to reject my brother's family, other than that my mother feels like they're only coming because they think she's dying and don't want to feel guilt over not visiting. Of course, that's not true. They've often tried to visit in the past and she just refuses to see them. Mainly out of anger over her situation, vanity and depression because of her lack of control over her life, I believe. They're perfectly lovely people!
She was feeling better this past week, and I thought the visit today was on schedule. But this morning her power lift chair broke which was all it took. Now, since she's confined to the hospital bed in the living room, where she basically lives, she's gone into a further depression, has been sleeping all morning and refuses to eat.
I told my brother earlier in the week it looked like she'd be up for the visit, but now it looks like that won't be the case. Do I have any right to tell family members that she won't see them? If it was up to me I'd just let them come and deal with whatever happens. But is it my duty to protect her since she can't get up and walk away from the situation? I feel like I'm in the wrong whatever I do.