My Mother lives in an assisted living. 1) she refuses to eat the food there - says its horrible - I buy food and take it weekly 2) she rarely goes out of her apt. (oh the germs and those people) 3) she insists only on certain caregivers (those who say no are obviously not allowed) 4) she is angry with her auditory doctor because she was told that she has comprehension issues - wants me to drive her to a place an hour away so every time I go over or try to help she complains non stop. She also tells others that I do nothing, etc, etc. I have had enough. I pay all of her bills. I just do not want to deal with her anymore. It takes hours for me to relax again after 5 minutes with her. Any ideas? Should I just say - you eat what is offered here and be happy? She is quite vindictive. Told the doctor yesterday that I almost punched her..... strange - she grabbed me while I was leaving. How do I deal with this - she is so manipulative. I never realized it when I asked her to move here so that I could help her. My father told me that nobody believed him when he told them how abusive she was. I told her she was unpleasant and I was leaving - she told me she was not unpleasant. I don't know how much longer I can deal with this. Especially taking a half day off from work for her to abuse me while I take her to the doctor.