As many others here are experiencing, I am going through a terrible situation right now.
I am FPOA and MPOA for an extremely abusive, mentally ill and manipulative elder. I was named POA as a child because the relationship with my parent was very strained for obvious reasons.
Now, the elder has reached a point where they are making poor decisions, are occasionally lucid (but otherwise declared incompetent by several doctors and nurses) and will absolutely not leave their home, preferring instead to pay 3000+ a month for in home care. They have now also involved their shady real estate agent in getting them a lawyer to prevent me or anyone else from observing their fiscal decisions and completely removed me from paying their bills and other financial care.
The worst part is that they are abusing and financially manipulating me, telling me I must leave my parent and move into their home if I have any hope of inheriting anything from them.
APS has been involved multiple times to no resolution. I was told there’s little I can do beyond guardianship which is a lengthy and expensive process. I don’t have the assets for legal action and no longer desire any relationship with them, which is tragic, because they were once my best friend. I am also concerned for my future as they are my last surviving family outside of my struggling single parent, so inheritence is important to me. I am grateful for any advice I can get.