First I’m an only daughter having 3 brothers. I was a single mother raising 4 daughters. My mother completely took over my daughters undermining me as their mother. So now here we are 20 yrs later I am living out of state with my husband talking to mom and dad daily. Mom fell broke her femure one of my daughters took her to the hospital with dad I’m keeping abreast. Well long story short she almost died. My 2 daughters made all the decisions for her care helping my 87 yr old father. I drove 6 hours to be with dad and mom at dads request. Her health is looking up and a woman came into her room asking about after care. I told her what home health we wanted. And she had me sign as her advocate. After she left my 2 daughters told grandma she was going to their house for her care and she had no choice since they had made her decisions. She said I don’t want to go to your houses I want to go home to my husband and get in home health. They tell her she has no choice since they have made all her decisions! They have small children one has 5 kids one has 4 she isn’t use to commotion. I of course wig out, they say well you ran off out of state we been taking care of her, which is garbage only for the last 7 days, before that dad was on his own. So now they have the nerve to tell me as their mother I have no say in my mom's care and she herself has no choice in her care. And dad is 87 so he’s just tired. That to me is abuse of my mom taking away her wishes and it’s a runaway train. I’m a nurses aid so I know the laws. How do I get her grandkids to back off??? This is got out of control!