A lawyer comes to our home and wants a key to our front door. I don't want him coming in and startling my Mom. Am I right?


I prepare documents and do research for the lawyer. He wants to be able to come in without having to wait for either of us to unlock the door. I am concerned that he might come over unannounced and come in and use the bathroom and my mother will see him when he comes out, and he will startle her. She is 88 and not very stable and I worry it might do more than just scare her.

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I think that the lawyer can wait the few seconds that it takes for you to unlock the door. Do NOT give him a key to the door!!!!
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Reply to DeeAnna

I am worried about why your employer wants to walk into your house unannounced? What the heck is that about? My employer would never think to do this,, I can't even imagine! How about if you or mom were walking about naked..maybe from the bathroom to bedroom. Or in bed, and hear an intruder? This is totally inappropriate. And creepy
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Reply to pamzimmrrt

No, No and H*!! NO. Even if he is legit he sounds like a self entitled bully, no way would I let him in my house.
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Reply to cwillie

Absolutely not. This is going way beyond any norm that I'm aware of.

A friend used to do transcription from home; I believe she delivered the completed work, but she may also have e-mailed it.

And I would think that in today's wired environment, the attorney could get his transcriptions and research results by e-mail as well.

Are you a paralegal or law student?

I think this is highly unusual, and unprofessional. Something stinks about this request.

How well do you know this guy?

ETA; the more I think about this the more unusual it seems. Typically an employee would deliver work; the employer wouldn't pick it up, unless it's a construction or fabrication item.
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Reply to GardenArtist

In your research, maybe you can do a background check on the lawyer.
Not okay to even come to your home, imo. Unprofessional. Find a way to back off
and still be employed, if that is what you want to do.

Are there any more RED FLAGS about this man? Are you at all uncomfortable around him?
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Reply to Sendhelp

Dougiemonty, that is ridiculous. I have worked for Attorneys and never has any one of them ever asked one of his/her employees for a key to the house.

With today's modern technology, can't you scan the documents over to the Attorney?
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Reply to freqflyer

Dougie… have you thought about getting a lock box at the post office or something similar where the papers would be safe and he would not come to your home. Or have a lock box attached to your house by the front door and you and he have the only keys. This way any confidential paperwork would be safe but he would not have to come inside to retrieve them. We have had a problem with people stealing packages and stuff left on our porch and the same in our neighborhood. He might understand too that he has over-stepped his bounds. Just an idea.
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Reply to Dusti22

Dougie...I agree with all of the prior posts….not only no but H**L no!!!!! There is no reason your employer should need a key to your home. It would be a cold day in h*** before I would give any employer the key to my home for any reason. That is not in the scope of the job nor professional on his part.

The first red flag for me would have been when he disregarded calling you before he comes over. This is my personal opinion but him being my employer and asking for my house key? I will repeat again that at the very least this is NOT professional behavior on his part. What kind of law does he practice?

If you feel comfortable I would tell him flat that he needs to call before coming over. If he cannot do this that you will either fax or email the briefs, etc to him. Just because you have known him for 18 years does not give him the right to ask for a key to your house. He can wait for you to answer the door.
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Reply to Dusti22

That sounds a little creepy. Don't let him have a key.
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Reply to smeshque

I agree with Dusti. I can certainly understand that your attorney is unhappy about legal papers being left unattended where anybody might just pick them up.
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