A granddaughter of a client I'm caring for wants to see her grandpa, but the caregiver who isn't family, won't let her. Is there something the granddaughter can do?

Heres the deal i have been taking care of a man for a month, he has a live in care giver but he has came alittle bit to much for her to handle recently my clients wife diied and i help her get him ready for the funeral i went to the funeral and boy let me tell you it was a mess, my client hasnt been diagnois with alz he is 87 yrs old and still know whats going on but what i heard from both sides that the caregiver will not let the family of the wife side help in any way of the funeral, will not let his grandkids come and see him.. now she told me that back in 2003 they didnt want to be bother with him when the wife first got sick but im hearing different stories they came upon me like i knew what was going on i told them im just over there 4 hrs a day to help him thats all but there is a blood granddaughter thats been wanting to see her grpa way before her grandmother passed for mons but the caregiver will not let her see him..when she leaves she always tell me do not open the door or answer the phone and i don't understand this is a young granddaughter so she doesnt really know whats going on..she remembers her grandparents so well but now thats this caregiver won't let her see her grpa or even help with the funeral ..these people were very hurt i heard the only sisiter of his wife say that it was wrong of the lady to bar her from the nursing home from seeing her sister..the caregiver is the D.P.O.A but my opinion is why is she not letting the graddaughter get near her grandfather im afraid to ask these qustion and i didnt know where to turn the granddaughter pleaded with me to see her grpa and i dnt know i told her she may half to some legal stuff im asking some suggesting from anyone this granddaughter is devesated....

Hmmm... something is fishy here - it's one thing to be someone's DoA BUT to keep family away completely is questionable. If you really want to ensure he's well cared for and that the caregiver is not taking advantage you could call the state and tell them you thing a well fare check is in order. You can find out more about it by contacting the local Area Agency on Aging. Tell them you're concerned that an elderly man is being manipulated and controlled by his care giver. Tell them you're aware that family has wishes to see him but is barred by the care giver. You can be completely anonymous; the care giver need never know that you made the call. I hope you can find some way to help this man reconnect with his family if it's a loving and healthy relationship...

well from what is told to me there is a loving relationship but this live in caregiver has interven and i dnt know what to tell her calling the state is what i thought about but im afraid that she will find out and i will loose..i never esperience the funeral was bad people appraching him going off on him and thus man is grieving..not the granddaughter but others were