Anyone worried watching their spouse age and getting a bleak picture of the future?
Hubby is 80, still quite active, strong, but he is partially deaf (seldom wears his hearing aids) and will eventually lose his sight due to macular degeneration in both eyes. I have a bad back (I can see problems for me in the future, a hip break, limited mobility) We have a 9 room house. Its getting to be too much for me to keep up. I'm trying to get rid of things in anticipation of getting out of here and into something easier. He just keeps on as if we can live like this forever. I try to pick up, keep the house neat, organize and put away his stuff that he leaves on counters, bookshelves, tables, all over the place and he gets mad. He won't even try to downsize. All I see is some day he will not be able to see, and I will have to figure out what to do with all of this - including a street rod, a basement full of power tools, and junk of all sorts. What if I am not well enough to do this? I have seen so many of my older friends end up overwhelmed because health caught up with them long before they were able to downsize. My children are thousands of miles away. I have no other help. I just can't stand the clutter and the overwhelming pressure of all the stuff!