I am an only child who always got along great with my parents. Mom passed away from Alzheimer’s 4 years ago and Dad (now age 97) was ill with pneumonia so we took him in. He is on oxygen 24/7 and walks with the help of a rollator. He has his own master suite on the first floor with a huge tv, but prefers to sit out in the family room with us to watch tv. He only watches one channel - Fox News and cannot hear it unless the volume is very loud (This is despite the expensive hearing aids he wears). He doesn’t like anything we watch and complains, yet doesn’t want to go in his room until after 9 pm. Most of the time he sleeps in the chair but refuses to go into his room to nap. So we turn the tv off when he falls asleep and then listen to him snore (although he swears he is NOT sleeping). I know this can seem somewhat funny to others, but it, with being shut-in, it has become quite annoying. He sleeps most of the day and when I wake him he is quite grouchy most of the time. He is adamantly anti-assisted living, so there is no use recommending it - money is not the issue. The constant negativity of his presence has become something that is increasingly upsetting to both my husband and me and we feel that we have no choices. The guilt of wishing for the responsibility of caring for him to end is overwhelming bc it is akin to wishing for his death. He goes nowhere, wants to go nowhere, and we are all he has. I read this site everyday and realize that many people have worse situations, but have not really read about anyone in the same predicament. Help me find a way to cope with him. I’m wondering if he is depressed or in the beginnings of a dementia state.