Difficult is an understatement for my father. He lives at home with my mother who suffers dementia. They are home cared for by assistants with whom he squabbles about pay and benefits. A younger brother, an MD, lives 4-5 hours away and is their main family caregiver and contact. I feel ignored by Dad; he never ever calls me. Today when I phoned him he shrugged me off, said he needed to drive to get groceries. We know he could have them delivered and endangers himself and other by driving.
I'm on the brink of estrangement from him and by extension from Mom. Any suggestions help, as I am really hurting inside.
I know that I met my own expectations for behaviour to my own appalling father. I do wonder why I bothered, but I’m glad I did. I know from a difficult daughter that estrangement is very hard to reverse, even if you wish to, but there is no hope if the channels close completely. I’m hurting inside from comparable issues, and I send you my best wishes.