I have a 92 year old mother with dementia. I too have burnout. I cry all the time and family members (my daughters) are always there with opinions and get angry if I talk too much about what is going on. She was in a nursing home for nine months and they came twice. She is now home with private aids and she is almost out of money and they still do not come to see her. I hope to be able to put her in a nursing home with Medicaid but she gets hysterical when she senses that she will go into one. She is also very abusive verbally and physically but only when I am there and then lies and tells everyone it is me. I always feel I have to defend myself and never sure I am doing the correct thing. I have been told if you cannot handle it, then you should put her in a home. This makes me feel selfish. I am going to be 72 and want a life before I cannot.