I am about to have a baby and my mother is constantly giving me guilt trips. I spend so much time with her every week and whenever I have something else to do that doesn't involve her she starts telling me now hurt she is, etc. etc. I spend more time w/her than my husband. She refuses to meet people or get involved in anything where she could meet other people. However, when I have plans w/my husband or a friend, then she feels left out and starts telling me how unwelcome she feels. I understand she relocated from another state to be close to us so I do a lot of extra things to try and integrate her and she doesn't want to make an effort to meet people. She only wants me and when I"m not available it's drama. She thinks doing our laundry, cleaning at my house is help (which is is and I"m grateful for) but that is just her easy way out of not living her own life. She is only 74 and perfectly capable. She using working around our house as an excuse not to live her own life. I am worried when the baby is here that will be an additional excuse not to do anything for herself. By the way I see her a lot and only asked for one day a week on the weekend to spend alone w/my husband. She thinks if on that day my husband and I end up just staying home that it is rude that she cannot come over. I meant one day of privacy, alone time with my husband (no visitors) just one day to have w/each other and it has turned into an issue for her. I don't know what to do anymore. I have no energy for this right now. Instead of this being a happy time waiting for my baby, it's just stress and drama.