My mother is 89 years old and has dementia and lung cancer. She recognizes everybody in the family, has no short memory and no interest in anything. She spends her days sleeping, watching the occasional tv show but mostly just has the tv on. She needs assistance to only from the bed or her sofa to the bathroom. Meal times have become unbearable as it takes hours for her to finish a very small portion. Most times she chews and chews and keeps it in her mouth unless we tell her to try to swallow. When asked she says she is not in pain and does not know why she doesn't want to eat. It is very painful to see her struggle with every meal and also very hard keep encouraging her to eat when she looks grossed out by it as soon as she sees it, even if we make what she used to really like. Her weight is 92 lbs. (42 kgs). We do not know what to do any more. A doctor suggested its time for a feeding tube. We really do not want to do that as she is still aware and will not withstand it. Any information would be much appreciated.