Does anyone have suggestions for how I can deal with my dad who is a recluse, unsociable, depressed, pessimistic and just waiting to die to be with my mom? He reads newspapers, magazines, does word finds, and watches TV but refuses to go anywhere or do anything. He is in very good health except for prostate cancer, blocked carotids, and some arthritis. Never had a heart attack, stroke, no surgeries, pretty amazing for his age.
But he is so grumpy, critical, pessimistic, which he has always been. But even more so now.
I moved to sw Florida from Colorado a few years ago to be with my mom who had Alzheimer's and am grateful I had that time with her. I really want to move back to Colorado because I love it there and it will always be home. I work full time and have a full schedule but don't like it here for a number of reasons. Would it be selfish to move back knowing he will be alone without anyone local and have to deal with things by himself?
My sister in DC has some contact with him and her daughter and family as well, but my other sister and her family has no contact with him at all for reasons that happened when my mom was in memory care and he was nasty, beligerant and obnoxious to her and me. I swore I would leave and move back when Mom passed but I haven't had the energy or financial means to move and find a place to live and new job. If anyone could offer some advice and insight, I would be very grateful.