Does caregiver need to respect her wishes?
My LPN sister is my mother's health adviser. I'm the oldest daughter and live out of state. I was visiting my mother when she fell the first time,which was four years ago .When I first walked in and saw my mom, she didn't even know where she fell, or what happened. She refused ER, but I loaded her up anyway. She needed over 50 stitches in her head and they kept her for observation overnight. The MRI showed she had been having mini strokes. My mother has fallen several times since then.The last one was about two weeks ago. bout a week later My sister sent me an e-mail about the fall. She kept my mother at home giving her pain pills (from where) and oxygen for a week before taking her to the doctor . But she said they had good news.......the x-rays showed no broken bones. I sent her an e-mail asking why she waited a week before taking her any where (very upset I would question someone so qualified) She said mom didn't want to go to ER and she needs to respect that. I asked about an MRI? "no MRI ordered just PT".They live in a very small rural town and my sister had worked for my mothers docror. My father died five years ago and about a year after my sister moved in with my mom, (because her boyfriend kicked her out.........only after my mother paid off his mortgage when it went into foreclosure, with no paperwork) Since then the will keeps being rewritten. Original will everything was to be divided equally between 4 children. Quess what,new will the sister gets everything. My sister has allready accumulated over 100,000 worth of debt to my mom. The other night when I called my mom about her fall, she was only all cosumed with the over 100,000.dollarsworth of debt of the oldest brother She forgot any of my sister's debt,plus gave her everything.("no,no you have misinformation. Where are you getting your info? " "from you mom!" I would think if you were the sole heir, you would not be playing Doctor at home and take her to the ER. Do, I call doctor and ask for an MRI? My mother wants to stay in her home, so I can't do alot where my sister would get replaced etc... Do I just sit and let whatever happen or, talk with the doctor. I'm pretty sure I know why she is not pushing for a new MRI. My mother would not want to live after having a severe stroke. ( Probably what is next) Am I right? I need some advice . Obviously,I don't have as much trust in my sisters capability as much as she does! or my mother!?