My mother is 79 years old and has a club arm and has never worked in her life. My father died in a car accident when I was a baby so my mother and I lived with my grandparents. When they passed away my mother could not keep up the house so she moved in with me and my husband. Last summer she needed an emergency pacemaker and now blames everyone because she needed it she had a full electrical block and her heart rate was very low 30 bpm. She always curses and constantly complains about everything even when going out to dinner and pouts if she does not like where we are seated in a restaurant. She does not want to associate with anyone some neighbors didn’t even know she lived with us. My cousin took her in for 2 weeks to give me a break and complained the entire time at her home. She is all about herself and does not care how she becomes ignorant and insensitive around anyone and I get very embarrassed because I am not like that at all. I cannot tell you how many times I apologized to people in a store because of her attitude. I cannot tolerate her anymore I feel guilty that she is my mother and I am a only child but she is very unfair to those who are her family. My mother in law is more like a mother to me than my own mother. My mother also refuses to go see a family dr only her heart dr and is now mad because her bp meds make her go to the bathroom during the night so she takes it in her own hands to skip a day or change the time for her meds which causes numerous arguments with us. It’s also a nuisance with her that her pacemaker monitor is on her nightstand. I even had to tell her dr that she refuses to see a family dr and if it’s a quick fix with urgent care then she will go and I told her that the drs fixed what needed to be done now are you going to do your part and he looked at my mother and nodded his head yes so she’s not happy I said that to him but I wanted to know what she is about. Any advise for dealing with a parent that is very hard to live with ??