Yeah, no. If your mother is paying bills online, ordering things and checking their status all day, looking at bank statements, scrolling on and using a cell phone, I hardly think she's suffering from much dementia to be honest. It's more like high anxiety and OCD behaviors to the nth degree she's displaying, imo. OCD behaviors can cripple a person to where they become non functioning for worrying over everything on earth.
Call her doctor and let him know about this ramped up behavior and how it's wreaking havoc in both of your lives. Give him examples, too. Ask for meds to help her relax a bit and calm her mind down!
Ahh, they're so cute at that age. lol. That's how old my mom is. Her hourly updates are on where her pain body is currently hurting.
No matter what the repetitive info is, it's annoying. Oh well. Just pretty much ignore it. Have a vague answer ready "Oh, ok. Thanks.". You don't really need to listen or really engage. Just move on. When she wants to know from you - you could just give a basic answer off the top of your head. "I think it's supposed to be cold". Or "About noon". Or just pretend you didn't hear her sometimes.
At some point, it will stop but who knows how long she'll be on this kick.
Do you get any relief or are your the 24/7 caregiver? Having a break during the day for a few hours could help you feel less maddened.
Thanks. I feel like Alexa..and by the way she has one, but likes me more. She hasn't been tested or diagnosed w.dementia/alzheimers but clearly showing signs. She is semi-functional. Constant worry over every single thing..for example, if something is bought online..like a book..she is constantly checking on its "order status". She wants me to call Amazon and ask where it is.. then she'll check on it all day..staring at her cell phone, scrolling, scrolling.. Obsessively looking at her bank account online, looking at statements, etc.. A couple years ago, I taught her how to pay bills electronically. What a big mistake that was. She obsesses over it. If a payment is still "pending" she worries WHY and WHEN they will receive the payment. I am so sorry I taught her how to do banking online. If she makes an error I have to figure out what she did and fix it. I should be the one doing this but she is hostile about me handling the bills. Too many things to list here. Thanks for listening. Lots of love to all who replied to me.
This is a common dementia behavior and is a phase. You do not need to respond every time she asks. You can change the subject, shrug your shoulders, ignore it or walk away.
Have you tried giving her "tasks" to do, like folding a large pile of kitchen towels, cutting up vegetables or sorting things? Maybe she doesn't have enough going on to occupy her mind so it will just go in a loop.
Call her doctor and let him know about this ramped up behavior and how it's wreaking havoc in both of your lives. Give him examples, too. Ask for meds to help her relax a bit and calm her mind down!
Good luck!
No matter what the repetitive info is, it's annoying. Oh well. Just pretty much ignore it. Have a vague answer ready "Oh, ok. Thanks.". You don't really need to listen or really engage. Just move on. When she wants to know from you - you could just give a basic answer off the top of your head. "I think it's supposed to be cold". Or "About noon". Or just pretend you didn't hear her sometimes.
At some point, it will stop but who knows how long she'll be on this kick.
Do you get any relief or are your the 24/7 caregiver? Having a break during the day for a few hours could help you feel less maddened.
Have you tried giving her "tasks" to do, like folding a large pile of kitchen towels, cutting up vegetables or sorting things? Maybe she doesn't have enough going on to occupy her mind so it will just go in a loop.