My mom was diagnosed with Parkinson's on May 4th, she tried medication for 3 days and then my stepdad called to say my mom was choosing to die by hospice. The only words my mom spoke to me was "I'm on my way out and you can't stop me!" My mom had been extremely depressed, anxious, and suicidal the month before (and her entire life). My stepdad refused to get her psychiatric care. I am in a different state and have called her doctors, the sheriff, Adult Protective Services, Hospice, my mom's siblings.
My stepdad has told hospice not to give me any information. He and my mom both lied to any professionals about her stage of Parkinsons (only very early stages and could be very treatable) and has shut out anyone who doesn't agree with her. No one is stopping this. I am an only child and have dealt with my mom's mental illness my entire life).
I overnighted my mom a card telling her I love her and am thinking of her. I do not want to try to talk to her on the phone. My stepdad thinks I am not being loving and compassionate by disagreeing with this. I do not want to go there and plead and argue with him or my mom. Her siblings all went to say goodbye to her and don't understand why I won't call her up to say goodbye. She is having her body donated to science so there won't be a service. I am seeing a therapist and have a very supportive spouse and friends. I am so sad about this, that I couldn't stop it, that my mom is choosing this early death, and that I am being seen as an uncaring daughter in this.
Has anyone ever dealt with a parent choosing to die without having a terminal condition/late stage cancer/etc?