My husband has five sisters. Two of them live near my mother in-law who has dementia. My MIL lives on her own but she shouldn't be. We've had to disconnect her stove and we just pray everyday she doesn't wander off. She is not eating often enough and isn't drinking enough water either.
She's getting to the "angry" stage and thinks everyone is against her and treating her like a child. She does not remember from one second to the other. Both my husband and I think she needs to be in assisted living. The five sisters don't. Unfortunately, my husband, who works full time is there every day either at lunch time or after work trying to get her to eat only to have her yell at him that she's already eaten....which we know she hasn't.
My husband has power of attorney, both medically and financially (THANK GOODNESS).
How do we convince the sisters that mother needs more care? We want to get her hearing aids and they said no because she'd forget to put them in. Luckily she doesn't take meds.
We've found a great assisted living place near by. She can afford it....but I'm afraid some of the sisters would rather have mom's money for themselves. My husband doesn't want to be berated and hated by his siblings but I don't know there is any other choice. Its just a matter of time before she wanders off an gets lost or she injures herself while she's alone.
Having a caregiver isn't an option, she wouldn't remember and would kick them out.
HELP...anyone else go through this. I feel like I'm sitting back waiting for a train wreck to happen.