I’ve been having a difficult time with my 88yr old HUSBAND with recently diagnosed moderate to severe Alzheimer’s.
Weve been married 35 years, both of us were widowed. He had adult children, I never had children.
Now he is declining rapidly and all I get from his kids is grief...they boss me around via emails, butt into doctors appointments and tell me it’s their decision how their father’s treatment plan should be developed. TWO ARE MILLIONAIRES, one is a felon murderer, skitzo and paranoid. That’s the one that lives near us. He scares the devil out of me and goes nuts very easily. He relies on hubby for everything even tho he has full time job.
Hubby and I are $$ comfortable but not rich enough to have expensive Memory Care and maintaining home at the same time. I also have severe vision problems and will probably need significant help myself down the road.
His kids have no concern for me and are not at all interested in having a financial part in doing any care giving for their father.
I really have enough on my plate just coping with a large yard and neglected house these last couple of years ... with fixed retirement income I’m stunned how much money everything costs and how much hubby never told me he had put into arrears.
I just want some peace here as hubby and I go down this next path. My bet is I’ll never hear from his kids after he dies. I have to protect myself for my old age as well. Kids think it’s “dads” money and they should inherit. Big problem is hubby agrees with them and is trying his best to have them as his beneficiaries . As his dementia deepens I’m afraid they will succeed in leaving me with bills and they with inheritance.