I am H + F POA for my dad, who has dementia. Though I don't live in the same state I visit regularly and manage his care. He has 3 adult children from an earlier marriage who live in another country. One was estranged from him (her choice) for many years-seemingly up til she caught wind he had some life insurance funds. Another one had only visited him once in the last 12 years, and the third visited slightly more often and was in touch every few months throughout the years, usually birthdays and holidays.
There is a ton of recent drama under the bridge (see previous posts) however now they are demanding they be included and involved with every single decision regarding his care. I have virtually no relationship with any of them as we grew up in different countries, are different generations, and given recent events there is no trust between us. Those of you who are POAs know the immense time and responsibility it is. I'm balancing my new marriage, career and life in another state with managing my dad's care. I have no interest in adding to that responsibility the headache of contentious, long-winded ongoing calls with them.
Not to mention, they don't live in the States nor understand how things work here, and I am the one whose life will continue to be turned upside down and whose time will be spent managing the care.
Any thoughts on how to respond to them?