By the time caregivers finally ask for respite care, our spirits are low and we feel defeated. At least that is how it was for me as I researched online for respite care after 7 years of caring for my parents. Dad died in 2012 of cancer at home as he wanted. I have tried to keep my promise to do the same for Mom. She has ALZ which is an entirely different disease. This has been difficult because I am married and work FT at home. Even with home care aides, as the disease progressed, the emotional toll of caring for her 24/7, unable to travel or be left alone caused my own health to be affected. As an educator/researcher, I performed what I consider to be due diligence in my search for respite care. My husband had a stroke in January, I had pneumonia in May, then broke my foot in August. I knew that my ability to take care of mom was being diminished by my own stress and life circumstances. I asked friends, nurses, etc. before selecting Chandler Hall. Everyone I spoke to only had praise for CH. I toured, applied, Mom met CH soc. worker, got a medical profile from her Dr. Took my Mom to CH for a 2-night, 3-day respite. One night and the C.H. nurse called to either pick mom up or provide the services of our home aide because they did not have the resources for constant supervision since she wanders. The memory care unit was obviously for dementia PX in wheel chairs only. Emotionally devastating. Trusted prof to explain key terms like secure memory facility.