I have a vacation house and go during July 4th week. Background: My mom is alone in her house and has what the Dr is calling Cognitive Decline, but has very short term memory problems. I take her out once a week for dinner and shopping. She has arthritis and uses a cane now to walk. She goes to the Senior Center twice a week but otherwise is alone (no friends). My brother checks in once a week by phone and she doesn’t remember him calling complaining to me she never hears from him. I do most of the caregiving - call her twice a day, help her with her finances, etc. she refuses to move into an independent or assisted living facility. I’m sure this sounds familiar to you. I am married and my husband is good to her. BUT this week is one week he wants to spend the entire week at the vacation house (we do go every weekend) because the traffic is horrible. THE ISSUE: he agreed to go up on Monday to pick her up and we arranged to have his family member drive her home on Thursday. She wanted to go until she found out we weren’t driving her home. I explained my husband doesn’t want to get stuck in traffic on Thursday. So now she won’t come and I offered for her to stay the week but she doesn’t want to stay that long. My brother will have her over for the 4th but she says he hasn’t called her. She sounds disappointed and now I feel guilty about not offering to drive her back and guilty that she is alone because the Senior Center is closed all week. Am I wrong to not drive her home? I’m not enjoying myself but want to enjoy my vacation. Has anyone ever been in this situation? Is this feeling normal?